Just for a moment, think about how fear shows up in your life. What does it feel like? Where does it live in your body? And what situations trigger it? Let’s be honest for a second here, because fear isn’t just reserved for those grandiose, heart-pumping dreams, or those few seconds before you launch yourself off a bungee bridge. So often, it’s the small stuff that we sweat. For many of us, it’s the day to day discomforts that open the fearful floodgates in our physiology, resulting in anything from butterflies in the tummy, to nervousness, to social anxiety, to full blown paranoia. What I want to drive home to you right now, is that any of these emotional responses or experiences that seemingly plague you, are not who you are. You are not defined by them. Fear is to the Ego, what Love is to the Soul. Fear is the Ego’s lifeblood, it’s oxygen, it’s diet. It is quite literally what feeds and nourishes it. How fearful you are in your life is directly proportional to the extent in which you identify with your Ego. Let me say this another way: If you believe the voice of limitation and dysfunctional fear in your mind, you’ll be manifesting fearful experiences on a moment-to-moment basis.
When the Ego says ‘I’m not good enough,’ and you believe it, not only are you are living fearfully, but you’ll proceed to seek out evidence that proves that statement correct.
When the Ego says ‘I’m never going to be able to turn my life around,’ and you believe it, you’ll continue to live in fear of your future, and again, produce evidence which will keep you stuck in your current patterns. Fear – in its very essence – is limiting, it is not expansive, like the soul is. The Ego uses fear to put a lid on everything, a barrier, a glass window.
By now, you’re probably thinking, ‘well, fuck, I’m screwed,’ but’s let’s remember for a moment, the fundamental teaching here: the Ego represents the opposite of the truth. With this optimistic and solution-focused approach, we recognise that our fears offer us opportunities to break through thresholds and grow as experiential humans beings. We learn to accept that it’s not our fears that shape or determine our lives, but the ways in which we respond to them. And for that very reason, I reckon we can all cultivate even a smidge of gratitude for the Ego.
As Mastin Kipp, the founder of The Daily Love, teaches: Fear is simply a compass, showing us where to go. In other words, notice your fears, lean into them, and reshape your destiny.”